Need advice on my engagement...please help...?

see i am getting married soon and my mom doesn't really think that is a good idea..when i told her she said that she was happy for me ..later i asked her if she was mad about us getting married all she said was i wish you the best of luck ..and that it was my choice (life)... i love him so much ...and he takes GREAT care of me and our son.. how can i get my mom to understand that i love him i know she knows that but why is she acting this way ..someone ..anyone ..please help meNeed advice on my engagement...please help...?
my fiance and i also have a child and my mom doesnt always approve of my fiance either...basicly she has her moods where sometimes she likes him and others she hates him ...he isnt around much because he is always working but that is about to change...





what i do is let her see the things he does to show he cares and loves you two....and for now just deal with it until she can accept it if he makes you happy and treats you right thats all that mateers --i know its hard because i am very close with my mom and it herts but she is starting to come around again....





your mom just loves you and wants whats best ...maybe she doesnt thing hes good enough or that you could do better because she doesnt fully know him...thats what my mom does...or myabe shes afraid when you get married she wont see you and the baby as much....shes probably just worried and as both of us being moms





i think you can understand why...because you have a son and just as worried you get about him --she does about you....its because she loves you she acts this way...even though he makes you happy....my mom has told me this flat out many many times during our 2 year engagement... because we are very open and honest (me %26amp;my mom) so thats probably all it is goood luck--im sur it will work out...Need advice on my engagement...please help...?
It sounds like your Mom is not quite ready to let go of you....do you live with your Mom and does she help raise your child? If so assure her she will still be a big part of your life and that you are not going to keep her out of your life nor your son's. Let her know you love her and maybe have a family night with all of you so she can get to know you future husband and see the things you see in him.
Your NEED for your mom's approval is causing you PAIN. Because your mom's approval is her choice, she has the POWER. Are you sure you want to give her that power? Especially since she can change her mind, and cause you more PAIN?
I think you're going to have to agree to disagree. Obviously her blessing means the world to you (and what girl wouldn't want that?) so you'll have to sit down and talk to her. Ask her why she's acting this way.








Good luck and congratulations!





Sandy
She may just be being mother and worrying about her little girl. It is only natural. I am fifteen...nearly sixteen in less than two weeks. But, I have found the love of my life, I am going to be engaged in August and married in July 2009. My mom says she is just nervous and that she knows that both of us love each other very much, but she is just being motherly and trying to ''get used to the idea'' her only child is engaged and going to be married, mine is not soon. But, no matter what happens, remember she will always love you, even if her actions do not show it.
is it more important for you to do what will make your mom happy or what will make you happy? why is she upset about you getting married? if there isn't a legitimate reason then you may want to talk to her and see what's up. in the end though, you may not be able to please her. just hope that she keeps her feelings to herself and supports you (at least in appearance) on your big day.
Maybe she doesn't like who your soon-to-be husband is? Maybe he has a job or lifestyle she doesn't like? Or maybe she's just one of those moms who like to control their kids? Good luck.
I have to really agree with most of the people who have posted so far. I think that she might not be AS unhappy with it as you might think as she has yet to actually come out and say you're making a mistake and throwing your life away. I mostly just have to agree with the people who say she's probably having a tough time letting you go. She does want to see you happy, and she really just sounds like she's trying to come to terms with the fact that her little girl is not only a mother herself, but she's getting married and ';leaving the nest.'; Let her know that you're happy, let her know you've got a good one that is taking care of you. She'll cry like mad at your wedding because she's so happy. I'm sure of it. :-)
Is your mom a single mother? Perhaps she worries you will end up like her? there are many reasons a mother doesn't want her child to get married and the best way to find out and get answers is to sit her down and say ';Mom, we need to talk. I know you are having problems with my getting married, but I don't know why and I would like to understand what you are feeling. So talk to me, please?'; Of course you can use your own words, but something like that should get her attention that you are really needing to understand her reaction to your impending marriage to the father of your child.. Good luck and God bless you and yours..
i believe she is being protective like a mother naturally is. she wants the best for you and from what you say, you already have a son... so that means the guy before this present guy wasn't responsible??? if that's true, she doesn't want another irresponsible guy again :)





why don't you have a chat with your mum and tell her that you Feel she's not telling you the truth or that she's keeping something from you :) it's good to open up as friends... gd luck and happy engagement :D
Sometimes parents are acting strange when their children plans to settle down. At first, its hard for them since we should understand that they thought they are loosing us. Its only a matter on how you will explain to her that your fiance is not taking you away from her instead he is an addition to the family. Parents will always understand in the end. Try to have a heart to heart talk with her and I assure you she will give you a thumbs up specially if the person you are marrying is a good person.