Need Some Advice... My engagement just ended and my fiance's mom is pretty much to blame. What do I do?

My fiance and I just broke off our engagement, due to the fact of his mother. We had planned on throwing a laid back affair, but she insisted on throwing something after we told her no. So, from this, a fight broke out, and I came home one day and his things were gone, and he called to say he moved back home. I have called his mom after that to smooth things over, and she racked me over the coals, and going on about how Im this rude and mean person. Mind you, I always brought flowers and things to the house when I visited. How is that rude? Anyhow, I asked him to discuss the issue of the way she mistreats me, he promised, and now he is singing a different tune. He says I should be the one to work things out. How can I when she acts this way towards me? What should I do?Need Some Advice... My engagement just ended and my fiance's mom is pretty much to blame. What do I do?
The things you describe are a very bad indication of what your future would be like once married. This man needs to grow up and become a man independent of his momma. Until then I would breath a sigh of relief and spend time on bettering my own life.Need Some Advice... My engagement just ended and my fiance's mom is pretty much to blame. What do I do?
This man is obviously what I like to call a ';Momma's Boy!'; Your wedding should be a vision of what the both of you want, not the mother. And is he was not man enough to back you up, and stand up to his mother, then you don't need him anyway.





I don't think you should try to work things out because he is the one that moved out on his own will. If he is willing to sacrifice your relatioship because he is a coward, then move on.
When you marry a person, you marry their entire family. If you can't get along with their mother, it's a HUGE red flag. I am currently divorcing my husband, although I would love to divorce his mother too. She is awful. It's crucial that you get along with the mother, especially if you are planning on children. It sounds like she would be the type of person that would not respect your wishes when it comes to the child, since she didn't respect your wishes when it came to your own wedding!
Don't drop him because of his stupid mother. Tell him patiently and calmly how his mother treats you, and how she probably changes her tone when he's around. Tell him the truth, and tell him how you tried to fix things.





THen tell him he can either have you back and you two have a private wedding without her unless she promises to stop talking trash to you, or you can leave.





I hope things work out.
Sometimes it is hard to get along with in-laws. Just do it to make him happy. No guy is going to want a woman that can't atleast pretend to get along with his mom. Why do you think that he moved out? He is not going to go against his mom for you. So make peace and try to work things out if you really love him. Marriage is a compromise.
Its his place to handle his mom not yours. You should have the kind of wedding that you two want and not have to cater to what his mom wants. She should understand that its y'alls day and not hers. If he won't handle her nowhe probably never will and you will be better off getting out of this relationship now. Sounds as though you have done nothing wrong! Best of luck to you!!
Ditch him. If he can't say no to his mom now, he's not going to do it about having kids, or raising them, or where you should live, etc. Part of being married is making that person your new family and your priority. He's just not ready to do that. Sorry.
Back off of him for a while. Tensions are running high. Don't call or contact him. This will give him time to think and to miss you. Honestly, mother in-laws are frequently tough when it comes to their boys. You'll have to practice restraint if you want peace within your extended family. Good luck to you.
Think how it would be if you were married? Everything happens for a reason. If you were married, it would even be worse. You are only getting a taste of what would come later. Be lucky, you are out for now. He will not change, nor her! I'm sorry to hear about it though!
You should be doing cartwheels. Although you can't see it now. . . he did you a big favor. Obviously he's a momma's boy and will always want to please his mom over his other half. I would send his mom flowers and thank her too! Good Luck!
nothing.... if he wants to be a little boy to mummy!!!!


then let him live there like her baby boy......





parents should not be making you guy's decision like that...





don't grease up to his mum, she has probs





infact you should back right off, I will assure you you could turn the tide quite easily
Most people are not this unreasonable for NO reason. There is more to the story than you're letting on. Men don't cancel their weddings because of their mommy. Give it up girl because you know you pissed somebody off.
If something this trivial broke up your future marriage, then be greatful you are not marrying this man. His mother obviously runs his life and she would make a horrible strain on your marriage, especially if you had children.
Don't marry him! If his mom doesn't like you, she never will! Would you prefer to find a man who treats u well and his mother does too or marry that man and liv with a world of put-downs and lower self esteem?





OVERALL POINT: DUMP HIM
find a man he is a punk and moma-inlaws are like pit-bulls when their jaws lock on you give it up consider this a blessing find a man
Oh move on. This is a life long problem if he can not handle his mother. There is still a way to be respectful and still handle your own life. he is obviously not ready.
Consider yourself lucky you didn't marry this man. Mama's Boys DO NOT change. They will always put Mommy above you.
You need to stand your ground. Let him stay over there and eventally he'll get tired of being around his mom and come back to you. Honestly, you need to set the standard right now before its too late. What happens when you are married and you get in a fight? Is he going to run to his mothers house? That is just such a slap in the face. He'll come back eventually and you shouldn't take him back until he confronts his mother!





You sound like a very patient person since you are willing to work things out. Best of Luck.