How do we ask his parents to come to a engagement celebration dinner? advice please.?

me and my fiancee are engaged when we go home in xmas he plans on giving me a ring (he is saving right now, and he couldn't wait so he did the actual proposal at the end of summer when we made a spontaneous trip to Paris :D) anyway when he does give me the ring im hoping everyone will take this a little more seriously (we've been together 6years (since i was 14, him 16) and i think everyones used to us being bf and gf i don't know???


but we want to take our parents out for an engagement dinner, my parents will love it but he is a bit more touchy about asking his parents because they aren't into lovey things and will probably think we are ';showing off'; (which is definitely how his sister, 27 and bitterly jealous because she's not even close, will spin it)


is this dinner a good idea (i mean my parents will love the idea and be very happy to celebrate this time with us) but how should we ask his and not have his mum and sister be like ';why? are you trying to make your sister jealous or something'; (that's seriously something they will probably say and his dad will not really care or probably not even listen to the reason we are going to dinner %26amp; just attend) but if we don't invite them they will get mad, its very confusing? and why should my fiancee not have his parents there to celebrate a happy time, everything doesnt always have to be about his sister! we meantioned our engagement in summer to his mum she said nothing! then the very next day we were watching T.V and saw a wedding and she said to his sister in front of us ';oh you could get married there its so pretty, you'll look great on your wedding day'; i mean how nasty is that when you say nothing to your son and he actually is getting married!!!


anyway do people actually do this when they get engaged? (you know take their parents for a celebration meal?) we would pay. any advice is this a nice idea or does it seem showy?How do we ask his parents to come to a engagement celebration dinner? advice please.?
Hun, its not showy at all!!! My fiance and i just got engaged this summer without even telling our parents even though they both knew about our relationship, (4 years together), and both our parents were ok with everything. After he proposed, him and I went to a nice dinner but just recently we did a family engagement dinner, just my parents and his and us of course. My parents did the dinner at our house and it was the first time that both sets of parents met eachother. We made so much food, appetizers, dessert, drinks. We sat down, talked and laugh and they finally got to know eachother (the parents). It was really nice.


Your fiances sister seems to be a very jealous girl. I would just ignore her and have your fiance explain how you guys are doin a dinner out to celebrate and they are more than welcome to join if theyd like. Leave it up to him to ask his parents and try not to get too involved since they dont seem too thrilled about your engagement anyways. And if they ask if its a way of showing off, let them know that you dont need to show off your love for eachother and that its just a celebration to include the family. If they are being snobby about it, then let them miss out on the dinner. Im sorry youre going through this and i know its really tough but let him talk to his parents and let his parents decide whether they wanna join in on the dinner or not and if not then its their loss, not yours. Congrats and dont stress it too much as its not worth it!How do we ask his parents to come to a engagement celebration dinner? advice please.?
What about getting your parents to invite his parents to dinner to celebrate the news? You can still pay for it if you want to.
take a bit of heat of the whole ';oh we're engaged and we're showing off'; thing that his parents may have (whether it's true or not) and tell them it's a ';meet the in laws'; dinner. You are all about to become family so a meeting is more than appropriate.
I think everyone will take it more seriously once you set the date!


A lot of couples now get engaged and don't bother getting married!


I think having an engagement meal with your close family is a great idea, will show them how serious you really are!and there attitude should adjust!
Don't worry about what other people think. You're intentions are genuine, to include them in a momentous time in your lives and if they think your intentions are anything but that they should keep their bitter selves at home. Ah the joys of in-laws
I think it is a great idea! We had a dinner with family after we got engaged . It was fun and a happy moment with the family. I think you should invite his parents and if his parents decline then you can just go with your parents and enjoy. That way if they get mad you can stay hey I invited you.
do the dinner.





be all OVER each other... snuggle at the table... kiss... do the whole hook and drink out of each others glasses toast - and call each other by the words 'wife' and 'husband'





REALLY SHOW OFF.





you guys are going to be so happy. rub it in their faces
You should have the dinner! this is a happy moment for you and your fiance, and what better time than this to bring both families together. You shouldn't have to sacrifice this opportunity because the sister is going to be jealous... too bad for her. Don't let her ruin your moment, enjoy and be happy. If anything, she should be happy that her brother is getting married. I say do the dinner, invite everyone, and if they don't want to come, so be it, they will look bad. You just be happy, and congrats on your engagement and your future married life :).
Maybe you should just skip having a fancy engagement dinner with them. Having an engagement dinner and giving the ring in front of lots of people isn't typical, so you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to do that. Especially since his parents/sister might not understand things fully.





Good luck, hope things work out!