Advice on my engagement?

So I am engaged right? well when I became engaged to my fiance, I told her that It was going to be a long engagement because I wanted to be sure that we were financially stable and done with college (makes sense to me) but I wanted to assure her that I wanted to be with her forever and always.





Well lately all we fight about are two things.





the first thing is the date/details of the wedding. I could care less as long as it is after we are done with college (another 2 years) but she wants it now or within the year. I can't even see that as a possibility because of my financial situation and her lack of a job.





the other thing we have been fighting about is college. I want to be a youth pastor and go to a bible college (you have to go to one to be a pastor these days) she isn't sure what she wants to do, but she is leaning towards counseling or teaching. She wants to follow me to college. Her reasoning is that it doesn't matter where she gets a degree. But I think it is because she doesn't trust me to go out by myself, thinking i will leave her. Fact of the matter is, it will affect her career options in the future, but she doesn't believe me.





I am her total support right now, emotionally and financially (like I said, no job) it is starting to take its toll. I have gone into debt for her (damn credit cards) I have given up great opportunities already, like a study abroad in Israel for the summer last year, I have missed trips to places with friends because I had to use my money for her and I have only my internet friends to really communicate my emotional trials to, which in my opinion is sad.





Should I just bare with her or break off the engagement? All of her friends are my friends and vice a versa, how would this effect them?





I am just so confused on what to doAdvice on my engagement?
I am going to give you my opinion and I hope you take into heart. You need to cool it with her and let her go. Do you even realize that this girl is bringing you down? Your companion supposes to up lift you and she is not. And also, how are you going to be a pastor saying that word. She is already a bad influence on you. Do you not realize that you are her meal ticket and it is like you are in a daze and only see her. You need a life and she is holding you back.Advice on my engagement?
She's a leech and will drag you down with her. Dump her and get thee to a nunnery.
It sounds like you're not ready to make this commitment.
just hold your ground... put the decision in her lap... ask her... is it to much to be engaged now when i want to wait till college is over...? let her decide since she is the one not listening...
go seek for help like your momma
well i'd sit her down and explain that you think it's important that you are out of school, set a date that will help her to feel at ease, set it for 2 yrs from now. like okay honey we can get married on july 29, 2012 or 2011 whenever, and then she will feel a little better, maybe, if that doesn't work, then tell her you need to take a breather till after school. good luck





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ok first of all that reallly sucks seriously. sit her down and tell her u love her so much but if she loves u Y does she have to marry u now? u r commited to her and shes comitted u marriage is jut making it ligit... so maybe she wants to know u r hers as a part of the government? just sit her down and tell her something like... ';honey i know u want to go with me to college but if u want a life with me i cant support us both and i need ur help. u need to get the best education u possibly can. i need u to trust that i only want u. which is y im engaged to u. love is giving someone ur heart and trusting them not to break it. if u dont trust me than i cant imagine how u love me. there is so much trust in love. and ive given up a lot of things for u, not saying i egret it or werent worth it but that could have helped us and instead i went for u because i love u. i dont see a reason to get married before im ready. if u love me u could wait until i am emotionally and finacially stable enough to marry u. when i engaged to u i wanted u to know i want to be with u...someday soon. just not now because im not ready and i dont want u to marry u just because u pushed me into it. im not saying i dont want to be engaged anymore but im saying we need to think about everything with open minds to what could make our lives together better';


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well no matter what u do good luck and congrats

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