Help, broken engagement-need advice...?

been together for a year and a half. lived together. after a year he proposed. six months later he broke up with me (done, over, wouldn't talk, see or face me)due to different factors on both parties. (no cheating involved) he said he got cold feet and needed a little space. we got back together four days later and decided to take it solw and not live together. i see him everyday but go home at night and on the weekend i stay with him. how do you go from having it all with all your dreams coming true to having nothing to having a little. How do you transition to just dating when you are use to having him there all the time and being yourself again instead of feeling like you are on egg shells all the time scared of irritating him or making him mad, etc. any advice on how to deal with this and get things back to the way it use to be. its great between us but its very different gosh i just want to wear my ring again %26amp; have OUR life back...tell me how you JUST date someone after thatHelp, broken engagement-need advice...?
he sounds very confused. Let him be for a while. You know the saying...when you love something let it go, if it comes back then you know... If he wants you let it be a chase for him to get you back. Im not saying break all communication, but start doing things just for you, do things in your own time. say one weekend your friends invite you out, and dont go to his place. Keep in contact with him but let him have a bit of a chase. Men want what they cant always have. Dont be available to him all the time, if he wants some space let him have it. Keep your life, or start building one of your own, and intertwine him into yours, slowly again. If he really wants you, he will get you back.Help, broken engagement-need advice...?
thank you so much. that was very nicely put and makes a lot of sense. you seem like you have been there or know what it is like.

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Don't think your relationship will ';get back to the way it used to be'; again. It's moved past that point. He is scared of the ';C'; word and trying to drive you away by his behavior. You need to figure out why you are letting yourself be treated this way. It's hard, but don't waste anymore time on him, he will continue to distance himself until he finds another girl, then he'll tell you to take a hike. Sorry.
Well it looks like maybe someone else may be in the picture.Keep your eyes and ears open and give him enough rope, and he will hang himself,sad but true.You need to ask him in a nice way if he expects you to just put your life on ';HOLD'; for him ,and if he can't answer that one,then forget about him and move on,too many fish in the sea to waste away your life on someone that is a maybe or not.He needs to grow up and learn how to make his own decisions.