Broke off my engagement. any advice?

I know divorce is much worse than breaking off an engagement...but I was very in love with this man.


We don't have children ...





Any advice on moving on? getting over it? Has anyone been in a similar situation? what did you DO??!?!?!


I CANNOT HANDLE THIS!


I thought I couldn't handle his bullcrap, trust me no woman on earth could, but whats worse is----i almost think that I would rather go back then live with this feeling of sadness.Broke off my engagement. any advice?
the period right after you end things is always the hardest.. I have been there! Whatever you do DO NOT go back with this guy. You ended things for a reason and you will be happier with someone else! What you need to do right now more than anything is surround yourself with other people. other friends. get other peoples support. and do NOT speak with this guy again. run the other direction. the temptation to get back with him may be strong but you need to resist for your own good. Do whatever you have to to keep yourself from giving in. Ask a friend to stay with you and keep an eye on you if need be. Start getting to know other guys, just do NOT get back with this guy!Broke off my engagement. any advice?
You said ';i almost think that I would rather go back then live with this feeling of sadness.'; WOW. Do some women really put their value so low as to think it is ok to tolerate cr@p rather than be at peace with themselves? WOW.





(I learn so much about human nature and the value people put on themselves on this board. I am so glad I discovered YA. This is a whole new world for me.)
Of course it's hard...but the feeling of sadness won't last. It just happened so expect to have all kinds of feelings like rage, regrets, sadness, betrayal etc. The best thing to do is to not be alone. Go spend a few days with your mom, or invite a girlfriend or several to come and stay with you. Male bashing usually make me feel better...:)





Hang in there, you made the right decision and there's a whole new life ahead of you!
Yes, divorce is many times worse than breaking off an engagement.


I think your just lonely and he is your fall back man. If you get back together, you will end up breaking it off again. Stay single for awhile and see what happens.
you CAN handle it,you and your happiness is much more important than the company of a man.yes its sad,but get up,hold your head up and move on,it will get easier
only time will heal
tell him u don't like how he acts maybe he will change changing is a slow process but si possible
Don't rethink your decision. If the breakup was your decision, bear in mind that thinking about all the good times you had may cause you to forget the reason for why you broke it off. Accept your pain. Have some good long cries if you feel like it. It's okay to be hurt, feel alone, and feel like you have messed up. Accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy, but you must also accept that you are a good person, and this is not all one-sided. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to begin to move on. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason. Consider all the reasons you two broke up. Understand that you enjoyed one another for a while, but even though everything seemed okay to you, if the relationship was not what your partner wanted for life, it would have ended eventually, no matter what. In this case, better sooner than later.


Deal with the hate phase. The amount of anger you feel all depends on how bad the split was, how it occurred (was there infidelity? That makes it worse), and how long it took to make the final break. There may be feelings of resentment at your ex for wasting your time. You may realize the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel like you hate yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time to be hating and ripping yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change.


Talk to your friends. They are always a source of advice and help. If you are close with any family members, they may be a good source of advice/guidance. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, loving friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile, worthy person again.


Write all your feelings down. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from