I need advice. engagement announcement at my wedding. URGENT?

I am getting married next Sunday. I was just informed that my brother proposed to his girlfriend yesterday and they plan on announcing it at my wedding. I feel that was very unthoughtful and inconsiderate on the part of my brother. I'm thrilled they are getting married but don't believe my wedding is the place to announce it. Isn't that the brides day... I feel they should get congratulations but should call family members and announce the great news. But don't take away from my lifelong dream. Please hurry with your advice because I don't want my parents to be a part of this problem in any way.I need advice. engagement announcement at my wedding. URGENT?
Tell your brother that while you are happy for him, it is widely considered poor etiquette to make announcements of this nature at your wedding, and likely most of your guests will look down at him for this act.





It might not hurt to send him a link to your question so he can see the overwhelming response you received in support of you!!





Best of luck!I need advice. engagement announcement at my wedding. URGENT?
There are many couples who wait until anothers special day to announce something big. It is not to take the day away from you but it's rather a convenience for them to tell everyone as a group verses individually.


You and/or your fiance` need to speak with both of them and let them know how you feel about them announcing this at your wedding.


Perhaps they can mingle with family/friends and let them know individually but making a formal announcement at the reception/party, is bad taste on their end.
I don't think he's being rude, he's just excited and wants to share his news. Perhaps, he didn't even think about you being upset about him making a big announcement at your wedding. Even if they don't make a formal announcement the day of your wedding people are still going to find out they are engaged. Are you going to ask your future sister in law to leave her ring at home? Not going to happen. So people congratulate your brother on his news...who cares? Is that really going to take away from ';your'; day? (which really isn't the bride's day, it's the couple's day) Do you expect your guests to talk about your wedding and your wedding only all day long? People are not going to forget why they are dressed up in a reception hall.
I would definitely say something to your brother, approach him and tell him you don't think its fair that he announces it on YOUR day. Tell him to wait, since you already know see if he can do it when yoru wedding is over, a few days after. You have every right to feel how you do and just tell him that and ask him to wait till a few days after your wedding to annouce it. It is your day after all, you call the shots!
I have to agree...someone's wedding is not the place to announce ones engagement. If your brother wants to share the news, he should throw a dinner party or something of that nature. He may not realize it (and many people don't...so I'm sure he's not being deliberately rude) but you might want to find a polite way to show him that it would be something of a faux pas to share the news that way. At least explain to him that some of the people might be appalled if he were to announce it that way (especially people of an older generation).
You're right - I do think that would be INCREDIBLY inconsiderate of your brother to steal attention from you and your spouse!!





You need to talk to your brother about how you feel. Converse with your parents about it beforehand to make sure you're all on the same page if you feel that he won't listen to you alone. I'm sorry that someone would even consider being so rude on your big day!





I hope next Sunday is everything you dreamed it would be, without anyone ';stealing your thunder!';
Wether it is right to announce an engagement during your wedding is up for debate ... what is not up for debate is your feelings. If you think this will upstage you, or take away from your lifelong dream, you HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING NOW!





Otherwise, you will live the rest of your life upset with ';what they did to your wedding';. That is NOT a good thing.








By the way ... I think they could announce it at another time.
I need further clarification on how it could detract from your day??? I would think it would make it even more special...?





I am glad we are eloping, there seems to be very highly strung emotions and political silliness at weddings.





I think the whole lot of you are being self centred and mean spirited. WHO CARES everyones going to be JUST AS HAPPY for the bride. Its not like she automatically becomes invisible if something wonderful happens to someone else. Imagine how your brother is going to feel when he realises he has a self centred bridezilla for a sister. You cant even be happy for them. Thats sickening.





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I'm with you! Ask your brother %26amp; his fiance to please not announce their engagement at your wedding.


Tell them just what you have said here -- you are happy for them and they deserve Congrats but you don't want their big announcement happening at your wedding.





And if they don't listen to you then announce you are pregnant at their wedding (even if you aren't!)
you have to talk to him - that's not cool


it's your day - he'll get his when he gets married


tell him you love him and you're happy for him but you don't think that your wedding is the appropriate place for him to announce his engagement


talk to your parents too they may help you smooth things out
You're right. You didn't spend all that money and countless hours of decisions for your brothers announcement. Just politely ask him to either wait until after your wedding day, or do it before. Perhaps even offer to help with the phone calls or help arrange an engagement party of some sort. :)
Ask him not to do that! It is you and your hubby's day, not theirs. They should respect your wishes and that this is your special day. If they really insist, have them wait until the very end to do it, after you have gone. It would be so rude for them to still do it after you've asked them not to.
very poor judgment on your brother's part. he should in no way take away from your big day. your wedding is definitely not the place to announce. if you can't get through to your brother, perhaps you could talk to his new fiance? i'll bet she would understand how important the big day is for the bride. sorry your brother is stealing your thunder. very rude.
This is easy, really. Just un invite the selfish little bozo. He should have more class than to even suggest that. If he doesn't then his bride to be should. Would she want to diminish her day too ? Talk to your sister-in-law to be. If she puts her foot down he better keep his mouth shut. At least if he wants to have a decent honeymoon, he will.
The answer is simple. Just tell your brother how you feel. Say that you have dreaming about your wedding you whole life and you want the spotlight on you, it is YOUR special day! Don't let them steal it. He's your brother I'm sure he'll understand. Be calm and understanding. Don't be a BRIDEZILLA!LOL.
It would be special to have him make the announcements. It celebrates their upcoming marriage with your new marriage. Just ask him to do it towards the end of the reception so you dont feel like it's taking away from your special moments. Maybe after the cake cutting would work.....just a thought. Good luck.
Just talk to your bro and future sis in law and tell them how you feel. Tell them it's your day today and ask them to put themselves in your shoes. They wouldn't want you to come and steal their thunder on their big day. You're right it is very inconsiderate! Especially since they've already got engaged.
i agree with you though you need to talk to him and not us. explain why it is inappropriate and why it would be unappreciated. Explain to him that under no circumstances should he assume he can use your day as his engagement party. let them wait a week
Talk to your brother and ask him to not do it on the wedding day. Maybe a compromise would be for him to do it at the gift opening the next day, if you are having one.
If you are uncomfortable with this you need to let them know... and they NEED to respect that. It obviously is a celebration of your marriage, not their engagement. You have every right to have your day be just that... YOURS!!!! :) Good luck
That is extremely rude! Tell him no! Tell him to send out announcments separatly!. That is so un thoughtful. If he is persistant tell your parents to interviene, get your maid of honor someone! That makes me mad and I am not even involved!
That would not be a good idea.One wedding at a time.His announcement should be a couple of weeks after your wedding.Yes that is really inconsiderate.
ask your brother to refrain from announcing it!!! This is your...and your husband-to-be day!!!!!
i agree... he should wait ... pretty rude on his part.. it is you and your fiance's day!
Ask him and his to be in person to wait for his big announcement. It is The Happy New MR. and MRS. Big Day. Not his and hers. I understand that everyone will be gathered into one location, which can be hard to get everyone into one location at one time but, but not for his announcement. Everyone will be happy for him and even happier for you, after all some will think what a special day this is with the wonderful wedding and the announcement. It will only take away from your big day some, I don't think it will take away enough of the guests excitement for you, but it is in bad taste to announce his engagement. If it looks like he won't listen to you then..mabye the two of you could come to an agreement when he could have the DJ make the announcement right after you and your beloved are announced you are leaving the reception, then have the DJ make an announcement to congratulate the next lucky bride and groom to be and their names. Just remember if you ever start out with anger and hurtful feelings it can be harmful to the family and everyones future family gatherings. Best Wishes on your Day no matter what he may do. Just remember it is a day for everyone to publicly celebrate you and your beloveds wedding. He can't take that away from the new Mr. and Mrs. Congratulations