What advice would you give someone who has called off her engagement and wedding?

I'd like to hear specifically from women who have made it through a broken engagement. How do you deal with the grief and disappointed at having to call it off?What advice would you give someone who has called off her engagement and wedding?
Why is there grief and disappointment?





When I broke off two engagements..there was an overwhelming sense of FREEDOM and RELIEF!





If she is the breaker-upper then she knew this was a wrong match and she did the right thing.





Depending on how close to the wedding she did it..she can still go on the honeymoon with a friend..or even with the fiance if they broke on decent terms.What advice would you give someone who has called off her engagement and wedding?
I'd tell her not to be afraid to lean on her family and friends for support; it's hard when your entire future changes, and those who love her will understand.





And as this question inevitably comes up: yes, she gives the ring back.
Hi. I'm sorry for your broken engagement and disappointment.





It didn't happen to me, but two people I know personally (one being my sister.) What they did? Both of them went on a trip with a friend at the time the wedding was supposed to take place. If you can afford it (even a small weekend trip), I would advise you to think about that. Do NOT be home sulking on ';the day.'; That is the only advice I can give you.





I'm sorry for your disappointment.
I was engaged once before and he actually broke off the engagement. We had been fighting for months and never could resolve the issues/problems. He found a new gf (that soon became his wife) and kicked me out of the townhouse we shared.


It took me about a year to tell anyone outside my family and friends what had happened. And it still isn't one of my favorite subjects to talk about. Even my coworkers (I had gone to work the night it happened) didn't know what was going on.


Needless to say, several years later I am engaged to a wonderful man and ready to spend my life with him.
get a dog, some peanut butter, and a bottle of wine.............
You deal with your grief and disappointment one day at a time my dear. Nothing anyone says or does is going to make it any less painful or any less difficult.





There are no quick fixes when it comes to matters of the heart. It just takes time. My advice would be to keep yourself busy and when you truly feel the need to cry or let it out, then do it. Keeping it inside will do you no good either.





Good Luck To You...
I haven't had to call of an engagement, but I have had to break up with someone BEFORE he proposed. You're right, there is a lot of grief and disappointment. I think in this situation, there might be friends and family seeking answers to questions that the bride/groom to be aren't ready to answer, so it's hard for a lot of people. I think dealing and accepting the grief is the biggest deal. Being open with communication and finding support when you're/she/he is ready is also a good thing.





Good luck!
It is better that you found out now whatever the problem was than after your are married. Grief heals, takes time, but you are better off. You have friends and family to be with and they will console you. Give it 6 months to a year, and you'll be back in the swing of things. Even shorter time.
I didn't handle it the right way when I had to break mine off. I partied a lot. On second thought, maybe I did handle it the right way.