Engagement advice?

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have a house together, and I would love him to pop the question. He says he does want to marry me someday but when we talk about him proposing to me, he says its not my turn, and that he will do it when he is ready. Does this mean that he has still not decided if I'm the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life? What does it mean? I'm so confused.Engagement advice?
Ok..here we go. You and yours have been together for awhile. He obviously wants to be with you or you both wouldn't have signed the papers to the house. He might want to save for the ring and the other costs involved since he knows how expensive it is to buy a house. Trust me...I'm in the same issue. He wants to make your engagement a memorable night. He probably thinks very highly of you even though he might not say it alot. Give him time and when the time is right(most likely when your not expecting it) he will pop the question. He might want to take you somewhere so that he doesn't have to ask in front of his or your parents.


Best of LuckEngagement advice?
if he is well settled in his profession,yes .if not no.
i think he's just making sure thats what he wants and you know guys take their time doing most things so give him some time..best of luck (';,)
Sorry, but with you shacking up, things will just be delayed or may just not come. He has all that he wants, and doesn't need or want to get married. Don't get fooled....


If you want marriage, and he doesn't, you two may just not be a match. Two or three years of adults dating is plenty long enough to know if you will marry or not.
Who knows with guys!?!? ;-)





If you own a house together...I'd think he's in for the long haul sweety! :-)
maybe he just not ready..i mean material ready..he needs to prepare all the things, the cost of wedding, ring, everything~..
he just needs some time..





don't pressure him.. he'll ask when he's ready
It looks like ur bf isn't ready for a commitment. But eventually u have to ask him about ur relationship. Are you really want to go like that for the rest of ur life? without certainty?
No you were too easy for him and now he got it easy without the marriage worry. You need to get him to commit by telling him that he has an ultimatum marry or youre out. Best wishes
don't put a lot of pressure on him. If you two are happy marrige is only paper. on the other hand don't shut your self off to other options let him know he is just as lucky to have you as you are to have him. Don't seem desperate to marry. I see a lot of people feel like they have to be married I don't understand it are they not happy with their own company. Love yourself first the rest will come. Pursue things you like on your own and show him you can be independent and lead a full life with or with out him. He will probably be begging you to marry him and then when you are happy and confident you may be the one wanting to wait !!!
it means hes a dope!





show him the question!





hes lucky to have you and he should snag you as soon as he can before you get fed up waiting!





show him this answer too! might kick him into touch and if he does read this





to him i say





GET ON YOUR KNEES MAN WHAT ARE YOU THINKING ! MARRY THIS WOMAN NOW! 3 YEARS CUMMON MAN MAKE AN HONEST WOMAN OUTTA HER!
nothing says i love you more than a 30 year mortgage. honestly, you two have a house together. i think it is time. where does he think he is going? or who does he think he is going to find? my brother was like this. he was with the girl for YEARS and they evenh had bought a house together.


THEY EVEN HAD A WEDDING DATE PICKED OUT BEFORE HE EVEN GOT UP THE NERVE TO ASK HER TO MARRY HIM!!!!! so they decided they would get married on december 20, 2009. and then like 5 days later, he asked her.





some men just don't like to be tied down. even though he is with only you and you two have a house together, he still might see marriage as a trap.





but, yes, he should ask you now before you get fed up and leave his butt.





hopefully, it will be soon though. good luck!
It means he's using you. Who's paying for the house and all the things? Maybe you should consider ending that relationship.
dump him and find someone else.


alternatively - start going out and about with friends for meals/cinema.theatre/ nice long lunches. i suspect that you have made the mistake that so many women do and your life revolves round him and you have lost touch with most of your friends. If you have a life that does not involve him and joint friends it might just wake him up. If not you will still have a great social life.
Sounds like he is not ready. If he was, he would have proposed already.


Just ask him where he sees the relationship going so it will give you some insight into what he is thinking.


Good luck!
Oh my! Why would you buy a house with someone who isn't married or engaged to you!!??!! That is the cardinal rule that any lawyer will advise you against. Now you are contractually connected through your house so he knows you aren't going anywhere. Why would he propose? He has no reason to. This doesn't sound promising.
I was in a very similar situation. We had two kids had a house and were together for 7 years before he asked me to marry him. I asked him why he waited so long and he said that he was scared and wasn't sure if he was ready yet. We just got married in June of this year. Weddings can be expensive( i did everything myself and still spent around $6000). So my advice to you is give it time when the time is right you'll be surprised just like I was.
Enjoy your time together. Putting the label on your relationship is not the be all and end all. Patience is one of the most difficult things we have to learn.





Stay true to him and let him propose unexpectedly when the time is perfect.
It means he's not ready yet. Not to sound crass but I think this is probably a case of why by the cow when you get the milk for free. You are completely dedicated and available to him, so why change things in his mind. If you are ready sit himd down and let him know you don't want to be and can't stand to be his g/f for the rest of his life. If it's serious you may have to tell him it's time to make it or break it.
Guys are very funny about not being pushed into marriage and proposing.. If hes living with youn then he obviously wants to spend his life with you...


My finacee asked me to marry him, but thought it wasn'to romantic enough so then he wanted to redo it, i waited 1.5 years, and had a baby with him before he asked me again, he found he just wasn't ready and the more i pressured him, the longer he took!!!


The same will happen to you, if you pressure him he won't do it, let him do it in his own time and just enjoy your relationship as it is!!!